As I left my
house early Tuesday morning to take my son Daniel to the school bus stop my
phone rang. I glanced at the phone and
saw that it was a call from my brother Joseph.
I thought he was wondering if we were going to work out today and so I
answered the phone cheerfully. The first
words out of his mouth chilled me to the bones.
“Bernie,” he said, “the doctor says that we need to talk as a family we
need you to come to the hospital now.”
“Ok,” I said,
“I am on my way to take Daniel to the bus stop.
I will get there as fast as I can.”
Joseph went
on to explain that my dad’s doctor had called for him at 6:30 A.M. The doctor was concerned that my father’s
wishes were not being taken into account.
Apparently it appeared that my father did not want to wear the B-Pac
mask. Without that mask he would be
reduced to a non-rebreathable oxygen mask, and the next step down from that was
to reinsert the ventilator tubes down his mouth, or to do the tracheostomy. My father said he did NOT want the tracheostomy
and the doctor interpreted that to mean that dad wanted to go home (to
God).
How could it
be? We would be right back to where we
were Friday night! I rushed home, made
arrangements for someone to work my shift, woke my wife, got ready to go, and
hurried to the hospital. All the
siblings were called and informed that we needed to meet at the hospital
urgently. I groaned inwardly as I
imagined another day filled with stress.
However, when
I arrived I found that Joseph had managed to control the situation. He had talked to dad explaining that the B-Pac
mask was needed to improve the functionality of his lungs so that he could go
home with his family. “Dad, do you want
to go home?” Dad shook his head no. “Dad, not home with the Lord, but home with
your family, do you want to go home with us?”
Dad nodded his head vigorously. “Well,
dad, if you refuse the mask, then the doctor thinks that you are choosing to
die. Is that what you want?” Dad shook his head NO!
A few minutes
later, when the nurse asked if he was tired, he said yes. She then asked if she could put on the B-Pac
mask and he said that she could. Thank
you Lord!
We waited for
a few hours in the hospital. Mom and
Joanna arrived almost right after I did, both were noticeably shaken and almost
in tears. I quickly explained that the
crisis had already been averted, but that the doctor still wanted to talk to us
as a family. Debbie and Moy arrived
shortly afterwards. We sat waiting for
Billy to appear, but when he had not arrived by 11:00 A.M. we were told that
the doctor was leaving for the day, and that perhaps we could talk to him
tomorrow. So we scheduled for an 8:30
A.M. talk with the doctor on Wednesday morning.
Please keep us in prayer.
I left around
2:00 P.M. to pick up my son Daniel from the school bus stop and took him to his
Rugby practice. On the way to the
practice we ran out of gas and walked the last half a mile to the practice
facility. My son Bernie III was kind
enough to buy a gas can and bring me some gas so I could get back on the road. By the time I got home it was close to 8:30
P.M. I took a small nap and about 11:30
P.M. made my way back to the hospital.
My sister
Joanna sent me her report from her day at the hospital:
It has been a
tough day today. Dad told the doctor he
did not want his oxygen mask on anymore and he wanted his hands to be
untied. He kept asking for Bernie
Jr. He kept saying he wanted to go home. The doctor understood home (with God) so they
untied him and took off the mask. Then
they called all of us this morning so the doctor could talk to us. While waiting for all of us to get there,
Joseph questioned dad and found out that dad wants to LIVE and go home with his
family. He understood that in order to
go home he either needed the oxygen mask or a tracheostomy and he definitely
did not want that. When he started
getting sleepy, the nurse asked him if she could put the mask back on and he
said yes. Around 4:30 P.M. he pulled the
feeding tube out. Debbie went in with
him. When I got there at 4:45 P.M. I went
in and he was shook up. Apparently he
did it on accident and was very anxious about it. We were able to calm him down and the nurse
also calmed him. The nurse had to
reinsert a new tube. He has been stable,
but really needs everyone’s prayers. His
lungs have a long way to go for complete healing. Dad is very tired of being in the
hospital. Things could go long and wrong,
but we must have faith that God is going to finish the work. It should say a lot when I say that he is
STILL in ICU day 8.
My brother
Joseph told me that “they now want someone to say with him inside all night
because he is pulling off the mask. We
are going to have to take turns with him in the room because it is rough. I am telling you right now it is rough.”
So while
stable, there are some issues. Keep my
father in prayer. Continue to pray for
complete healing and strengthening of his lungs. For him to be a little less stubborn and a
little more willing to take the doctors advise on his care. Thank you very much. God bless you.
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